So how’s married life so far?”A question I commonly come across these days.
Sometimes in a different tone, they ask, “So are you surviving it?” or “Is it really hard?”
And every single time, I would reply, “Oh, it’s definitely great! I cannot quite express it, but it is!”
If I had enough time to sit down with you, I would say, “It’s not easy but not entirely hard as well.”
Life as a homemaker on a regular basis means waking up early in the morning, ideally ahead of the rest of the caboodle — which I fail 90 percent of the time.
It means cooking, getting the laundry ready, while a crying baby is in dire need of your love, cleaning the dirty diapers, washing a pile of plates waiting patiently for you, and juggling all that at once.
It could sometimes mean swallowing lots and loads of saliva to put yourself together because you’re about to blow up and flare up.
It’s hard to put up with everything sometimes, but it’s rewarding, and believe me, it really is.
The husband, Jadon, on the other hand, reigns supreme at being the breadwinner. He does cunningly a great job at it. He runs errands for me and other people, suffering a little time away from his favorite people.
And even if he can escape the total hullabaloo at home 90 percent of the time, he doesn’t.
He remembers how great it is to have me as his wife (kidding!) Rather, he remembers how well we work things out together because he knows I need him and he needs me. There’s nothing sweeter than a family struggling together.
You see, all these can take a heavy toll on one’s marriage if the couple is not balancedly sane — emotionally and most importantly, spiritually.
Part of me admits to knowing I have fostered dreary experiences from the past, but I also noticed how well society has instilled in our minds the lesser meaning of marriage these days. That more than it’s actual meaning of having two people unite legally before God, it’s merely just a piece of paper.
Growing up, I have always been scared of marriage. I’ve seen how it affected so many lives, most especially the little ones in the house including myself.
I have tangibly felt pain in a lot of people I came to know suffering failed marriages. Enough to actually be fixated on the thought of not getting married at all.
But along the way, with an answered prayer, I realized that just because other people’s marriages failed, mine will suffer the same fate. I have since realized that one conquers what one wants to believe.
I have been married for four years now to an incredibly- faithful servant of God who honors his calling in church more than anything else. If he does that, who am I to be scared of anything?
Don’t settle for less, and I dare you to find the best one in the room. That best is the person who is willing to present you before our Father in Heaven. A person who will not waste your love and time on a temporary relationship.
For what is love with no direction? There’s no point investing time, let alone waste it, when in the first place, there clearly wasn’t a plan. Life is too short to take too much of your time with the wrong person.
If you haven’t found it yet, keep searching, and while at it, prepare yourself that someday, you will be worthy of that person destined for you.
Oftentimes, we are so caught up in throwing out what we deserve, but when the right person we think we deserve comes along, are we prepared enough to deserve him, too?
Imagine meeting the right person with your heart [whole], and so ready to love?
Find a person who will vow to take care of you, to love you for what you are and what you are not.
There will be times when you’ll go through unrestrained tantrums, unnecessary over-thinking, even recklessness, and will seem frustrating and endless [but the right person will stick with you no matter what]. And believe me, there is such guy. There sure was one for me, so there should be one for you, too.
And I like to believe there is one for everyone. Because you deserve love, let alone a relationship that will grow to higher heights, not stagnant.
You deserve love that will last not only in this lifetime but through the eternities, and that is only possible through our Heavenly Father’s blessing. That blessing is Marriage.
And it’s not true that good guys [or girls] no longer exist because if it were, then I would not have found mine.
Set your heart on good things. Pray for good things, and then believe them to happen.
Plant your thoughts in happy places for you attract what you believe, and where your thoughts are, there will your heart be also.
There’s a long way to go for us but I just know that everything will be okay because I believe, and will always believe, that a family who puts the Heavenly Father in the center of their lives will attain happiness in this lifetime. There’s just no other way to attain profound bliss but the latter.
I’m so glad I have proven myself right. That marriage is not just a mere agreement written on a piece of paper but a powerful union especially sanctified by our Heavenly Father to withstand trials, however insurmountable they may seem.
And I’m very glad I chose a union blessed before God. Because of that, our marriage wasn’t ours alone to fight.
When insurmountable trials came, God was there with us to fight our battles, especially when we could no longer fight them ourselves.
So no, don’t allow anyone’s miserable experience in marriage rob you from that very thing that could make you happy.
It may be utterly poignant to have gone through what they did but your marriage is yours to make. Don’t let others’ ill experience dictate what could be a wonderful experience for you.
We may inevitably foster dreary memories but we can use that to build a better home. We need to become good husband and wives at home so someday our kids will make better husband and wives, too.
Yesterday’s devotional about young couples rejuvenated my idea of love. So here’s a few of the things I learned from Apostle Jeffrey R. Holland:
“I love you is not just merely a romantic expression, it’s a promise to your behavior. A promise to stay loyal. A promise to be sealed in the eternities”
“Three things everybody need:
1. Someone to love.
2. Significant work to do (purpose in life).
3. Something to look forward to.”
May we always choose to be inspired with what we want to believe and have at the end of the day.
While it is true to have undeniably failed marriages around, I know and believe there are successful marriages around, too, and I’m grateful to have believed the latter, more than the former, because I count mine already as one.
As for me, I savor every moment with the love that I chose, and I’m grateful because that is you, Jadon Herrenauw.
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